Who Were you?

So this evening I found out from my moms side of the family that my dads father has passed away. I didnt hear this from my dad, well because he said it didnt seem important enough to tell me. Now understand that this is unfortunately true. My fathers side of my family has never been known for being very close, and well as far as my dad and his fathers relationship goes, lets just say it was nonexistant at best. My grandfathers father was abusive to his son and his son apperantly passed that along to his son. He was a very mean and abusive man. Apperently though, at least according to his obit, just to his sons.

At least my dad and I seem to have broken this vicious cycle, even if it took 30 years. Hopefully with my children my wife and I will be able to break this cycle of not being close to family. I mean it is pretty sad when a boys grandfather passes and the boy cannot recall one single memory of him, not one.

So grandpa who exactly were you, because I refuse to believe your were the flowery man in the obit. And ho wexectly am I supposed to feel now that your gone?